I'm More "Doris Day" Than "Marilyn Monroe"

Doris Day and Marilyn Monroe.
Both women were icons, but for very different reasons.

One was known as the Sweetheart: she was the girl next door type, always smiling, good-natured, but also had a temper and wasn't afraid to fight for what she wanted.
The other was known as the Sex Symbol: she was usually cast as a woman with lower intelligence, always wore skin-tight and figure flattering outfits, and was the woman that all the men wanted.

Even if you've never heard of Doris Day, most people are able to figure out which description goes with which woman. Doris Day was the Sweetheart while Marilyn Monroe was the Sex Symbol. Due to her untimely death and being known as a sex symbol, Marilyn Monroe is known around the world. Doris Day doesn't have the same global recognition because she was seen as more of an ordinary woman. People saw her as cute and sweet, but not as special as Marilyn.
(Keep in mind that these descriptions are based on stereotypes and global conceptions of the women. Personally, I believe that both women were beautiful, intelligent, funny, and extraordinary in their own ways.)

Based on the stereotypes of these women, I believe that I'm more "Doris Day" than "Marilyn Monroe." Physically, I'm built more like Marilyn: hourglass figure, full lips, and cleavage even in a turtleneck. But personality wise, I'm more of a Doris: funny, determined, have a temper, and a contagious laugh.

Doris and I are the type of women that a man would marry and come home to at the end of the day when he expected a home-cooked meal on the table. Marilyn is the woman guys want to have a romance with, and take her out on the town and show her off.
Doris and I are stubborn and can hold a grudge when fighting with our man. Marilyn never has a fight with her guy because he agrees to whatever she says for fear of losing her.
Marilyn is the woman that men are immediately drawn to and they want to take care of, while Doris and I are more of the Girl-Next-Door type where it takes guys years to decide that they want to be with us.
(Don't get me wrong, I like who I am. I'm cool being more girl-next-door than bombshell, I'm simply making comparisons to illustrate my point.)

Recently, two close male friends of mine (who have never met) said the following to me on separate occasions:
Collin: How are you still single? You are fantastic!
Trenton: I don't understand why some man hasn't come for you yet.

At the time, I didn't have a response for either of the men. But when I really started thinking about it, this is what I came up with: I think it confuses guys when they see me and expect Bombshell only to get Sweetheart. They expect a woman who needs protecting and to be shown off yet receive a woman who can manage her own life without the approval of others. They expect glitz and glamour only to be met with simplicity. They expect Sexy and get Cute instead. When they realize that I am not the Bombshell they thought, they are disappointed and don't have much use for me after that. And that's fine. I'd rather them not call back instead of asking for another date hoping that I will change into the Sex Symbol they wanted and us both being disappointed.

I've come to the conclusion that I'm more "Apple Pie" than "Martini." It's just that most guys my age would rather go out drinking than have a home cooked meal. I'm not worried, though. I enjoy being the Apple Pie of life. I have great friends and kids who love and support me, and I know that one day a great guy will come along looking for something more substantial, and he'll find me. So ladies, don't worry if you aren't a Marilyn. There's nothing wrong with being a Doris. Take my word for it.

Ladies, to whom do you relate more? Would you rather be one over the other? Fellas, do you prefer Marilyn to Doris, or do you like sweet more than sexy? As always, I'm excited to hear what you have to say. 

You Can, But I Can't?

Did you know that it is impossible for two people to be tired at the same time?

Oh yeah, it's true.
Nearly every time I mention to someone that I'm tired, they question me about my activities, then state what they have done and why they are tired, and that therefore I should have no reason to be so worn out.

Example: I had worked a 12-hour day, gone to classes, did 4 loads of laundry and lots of dishes, gone to a program for my residence hall, stayed up working on regular homework as well as my Senior Thesis, and gone to the gym. All of this on 3 hours of sleep. 
When a friend asked how I was doing, I simply replied, "I'm good. Tired, but good."
Without missing a beat, he says, "You're tired?! YOU'RE tired?! I've gone to classes, worked on an art project, and still haven't had my afternoon nap. I'M the one who is tired."

Now, I have no right to judge this guy. Maybe he needs more sleep to function well; maybe he was having a bad day and was just crabby; maybe he had no concept of how hard other people work and was unaware that the world does not revolve around him. Who knows. What I do know is that, even though he was tired, I was also exhausted. Just because he experienced fatigue didn't mean that I was exempt from it.

So, maybe I should have used my *Sarcasm Font* at the beginning of this post when I mentioned that it's impossible for two people to be tired at the same time. But that's how a lot of people make it seem: they are tired, so there is no way for you to also be tired.
What the heck kind of ridiculous rule is that?! Lots of people work hard, and they all deserve to rest and relax. Just because someone worked in a different way than you doesn't mean that they worked any less than you, or that they should be less tired than you. The thought that we are in competition to see who is "Truly Tired" because only one of us deserves to be so sleepy is preposterous to me.

I guess I don't have a lot to say for this particular post. This isn't philosophical and doesn't require a lot of deep thinking, I know. But it is something to consider.  You being tired doesn't cancel out another person being tired. Why are you the only one allowed to be worn out? Isn't it possible (and dare I say even probable) that more than one person has worked hard and is in need of rest? Think about that the next time you start to condemn another person for stating how tired he or she is, instead of trying to prove why you are the one who has the right to be tired.